Monday, July 7, 2014
I had a much needed, pleasant experience with another mom at Fairy Tale Town. The previous day, I had a run in with a grandmother at the park who yelled at me and left the park after she was disgusted at me for allowing my child to climb up the slide and then how unconcerned I was when my 1 1/2 year old pushed her two year old in the sand pit. I was handling the situation and was just about ready to get down with the two boys (who were not crying or upset, mind you) when I was berated for not running in to save her grandchild from my bully of a toddler. She continued to be condescending toward me as she told me to "use my words" with my son. Anyway, not to dwell on the negative, it ended when her family left inn a huff because they weren't interested in my suggestion to talk it out and make it a learning opportunity for everyone involved. I'd like to believe that she was just having a bad day, but as she did nothing after her 12 year old yelled at me to "shut up", I just decided to leave the situation alone.
It took me a while to let go of feeling judged by someone who clearly does not know me, but all was made well the next day.... Ari is going through a pushing phase, which is not kind behavior, but we are working on it. thsi is just how the mom at Fairy Tale Town saw it too. Once again, Ari pushed her little girl. I talked with Ari and reminded him that we do not push other people. I asked him to apologize and to be kind to the girl as they played. He did just that. Problem dealt with. The other mom was just so understanding. We stood and talked about how all kids push and hit argue with each other. She was just so nice to me. Did not blame my parenting for the pushing, and talked about how she knows that kids go through pushing, hitting, biting screaming etc... phases. They learn it is not acceptable behavior, and they move on. An incident at the park rarely indicates bad parenting or a bully. I think, more than not, it shows that we are all people who act selfish and make wrong choices. What does indicate poor parenting or a bratty kid (if i may be so bold to say it) is an unwillingness to learn from the situation. We should all be willing to look at the situation as a learning experience for the parent and child. To get down and help our children talk, if they don't have the words, or to give them space to work it out on their own as long as no one is getting hurt. So, thank you to that mom at FTT. Your kindness was so appreciated after being shamed at the park the previous day (and you had really pretty hair!). And thank you to the grandma who yelled at me. You have helped me see how very important it is for me to be prepared for encounters such as ours. I need to be ready to apologize when it is needed and to be kind, even when adults act like children. To know when to just leave a situation alone instead of trying to make it all okay, if the other person is not interested in doing so. And, I need to be prepared to do what I know is right, even when I might be standing all alone in a playground of people staring at me. Especially because more than half of those people are children.
*In choosing the posed photos, I did a lot of back and forth to try to pick the ones with the best faces. I was just laughing and laughing at how funny the kids are when they are trying to smile (as opposed to actually smiling) Wide eyed, sometimes scared looking, they have a hard time pulling it all together. If they are smiling, they are looking away from the camera. If they look at the camera, they look like they have never relaxed before. Their actual, true and genuine smiles just melt my heart, yet they are quite hard to capture on camera. Either way, the posed photos are precious to me too. They are trying so hard to be sweet for the camera and for me. I love those three!
The kids had their first kayak excursion at the lake where I lived for a few years when I was little. I lived right across the cover from where we were. The property in the background of the first couple photos. It was fun to show them my old yard, and the new home that was built on it. My sisters and I used to swim and ride around in our small fishing boat all summer. It was a great place to grow up. My Dad often says he should have never sold that place. Such good memories! They only live two miles from the lake now, so we still have the opportunity to go there when we visit.
Axel and Autumn were so excited to go out in the boat with Grandma and Grandpa. They paddled around, and then went back out with me and Ram. I took Ari out for a ride too. Grandpa brought fishing gear and gave Axel his first fishing experience- bluegill and all. The kids were fascinated by the whole experiemce of catching and cleaning the fish. I'm not sure who was more excited, Axel or Grandpa. I do know, however, who was more excited to eat the fish. The kids both spit out their one and only bite.
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
|Mama's favorite view|
|the huge tank was our favorite|
|quite exciting to see puffins in real life|
|best seat for viewing|
|looking for creatures|
|a bit hesitant|
|not these two|
|could anything be better than a beach of rocks?|
|Daddy and the boys exploring|
|in front of the cottage with their new ocean babies (Sea Otter, Squawk, and Penguin)|
|Mama's idea of a fun last day hike. Turned out to not be such a good idea....|
Saturday, May 10, 2014
Autumn loves her new baby doll. She named her Autumn Baby(Axel's baby is named Axel Baby and Ari's baby is named Ari Baby). This doll was so fun to make. I had high hopes, as I always do, that she would love her doll. Like it was with Axel's doll, I can't even explain the feeling it gives me to be able to make a play thing that my child accepts with open arms. Her clothing matches her bedding in the baby doll crib that Grandpa made for Autumn.
My sweet girl. I love her so!
Saturday, March 15, 2014
Axel River- explored, climbed and slid- he was fearless
Autumn Rain- pushed herself to keep up. such fun she had sliding
Ari Indigo- first snow
photo of each of my kids once a week through 2014
inspired by Jodi
The snow was SO far away. We drove twice as far as we expected it would be to even find snow. We ended up at the little snow park at Boreal. It was the perfect amount of hiking and sliding for the kids. Poor Ari was under dressed, and, even though it was quite warm, he was cold and ready to go before everyone else. He had quite a fun time, though, eating snow and hiked much more than I expected his toddler legs to carry him. I had a much easier time hiking and playing as well. Since having three pregnancies in 4 years, I feel somewhat slow and immobile. I don't tend to be drawn to outdoor activity, but when I do it, I enjoy it and wish I was more driven to experience creation more frequently. I was please to find that I was able to hike up the small hills (sometimes even carrying a child) and was comfortable sliding with the kids. It gave me a hope for a future of enjoyable physical activity that I rarely feel.
Thursday, February 20, 2014
Axel River and Autumn Rain- in deep concentration while painting
Ari Indigo- that hair!
photo of each of my kids once a week through 2014
inspired by Jodi